Jules Von Hep and his partner Mark Beverlo began pursuing parenthood through surrogacy in 2020, navigating a process they describe as financially demanding and emotionally taxing. In the UK, they engaged with an IVF clinic and surrogacy agency, accumulating substantial costs including £1,000 for advisory meetings, £13,000 for embryo creation rounds, and £5,000 per embryo transfer attempt. UK surrogacy operates on a non-commercial altruistic model where surrogate expenses are covered but compensation is restricted. The couple faced a two to three year waiting list for UK-based surrogates and ultimately experienced multiple failed transfers and home insemination attempts.
After deciding to pursue surrogacy internationally, the couple initially considered the United States but found costs prohibitively high at approximately £250,000. Ukraine became inaccessible due to ongoing conflict. They ultimately chose Mexico, where surrogacy was legalized for same-sex parents in 2021. The couple is working with a UK-based, queer-founded agency called My Surrogacy Journey Mexico City. Mexican surrogacy involves commercial arrangements where surrogates receive compensation, with agency fees typically around MXN$388,000 (£16,914) for carrying a pregnancy, alongside medical expenses.
The total cost in Mexico ranges from approximately £60,000 to £90,000, comparable to UK expenses but with different regulatory structures. Two Mexican states have banned surrogacy while three have governing laws, creating a patchwork regulatory environment. Concerns have been raised about potential exploitation of economically disadvantaged women, though the couple’s chosen agency emphasizes ethical protections and operates in regulated jurisdictions like Mexico City.
Once their surrogate becomes pregnant, Von Hep and Beverlo plan to remain in Mexico for three to six months following birth to secure their child’s passport before returning to the UK. Upon return, they will need to obtain a parental order through family courts to achieve legal recognition as parents. Von Hep has become an advocate for discussing surrogacy challenges publicly, particularly regarding the financial and emotional barriers facing same-sex couples seeking biological parenthood.
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